Isn't it kind of sad when the losing side has more respect for it's soldiers than the winning side?

Yes, it's sad. I don't think that's true, though. The reason the SCV is bigger than the SUV is only because the South glorifies the idea of the "Lost Cause" and deifies its leaders ... and the Northern states don't do that with Lincoln and the superiority of its cause. Plus there's this whole pop culture notion that southerners are the only "real" Americans, I guess the rest of us are just poseurs.